Entered into eternal life on May 5, 2022 in Natick, MA. Kay was born in 1924 in Brooklyn, NY to Charles and Catharine (Rehkamp) Heydner. She shared 62 years of marriage with Joseph L. Rubsam who predeceased her in 2012. She lived in Glendale, NY and Somers, NY before moving to Natick nine years ago.
Kay was predeceased by her son Robert and is survived by her daughter Kathleen Muleski and her husband Robert of Natick and her son Joseph and his wife Catherine of Red Hook, NY. She was loved by her three grandchildren, Meaghan, Robert and Siobhan Rubsam.
An only child, Kay grew up in Glendale, NY where she enjoyed her extended family. She spent summers at the family home in Baldwin, NY where she enjoyed swimming, boating, fishing and catching crabs on the canal.
After graduating from high school, Kay became a dental hygienist, a profession she followed until the birth of her daughter. As a mother she was active in her church and with activities involving her children. She served as a Cub Scout den mother, President of the Junior League and a Eucharistic Minister at her church.
Kay enjoyed traveling with her children when they were young including a five-week cross-country car trip. Once the children were grown, Kay and Joe travelled extensively. In Europe they visited family in Germany, cruised the Greek Isles, visited France, England, Austria, Switzerland, Italy, Scandinavia, Russia and Eastern Europe. They cruised to Bermuda, in the Caribbean and from the West Coast to Hawaii. They passed this love of travel to their children and grandchildren.
The family would like to thank those who provided care and support to Mom over her period of declining health. These include the staff at Beaumont at Natick, the priests in the Natick Catholic Community and her Eucharistic Minister, Donna Manganaro.
Special thanks to Winnie and Jalia who took wonderful care of Mom and became her friends, first during the pandemic and then most recently as her health declined. Their patience and concern are to be admired.
Relatives and friends are invited to attend visiting hours on Sunday May 15 from 3 to 6 PM at John Everett and Sons Funeral Home, 4 Park Street, Natick. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Monday May 16 at 10:30 AM at St Linus Church, 119 Hartford Street, Natick. Burial will be in NY at a later date.
In lieu of flowers a donation should be made to St Linus Church (44 E. Central Street, Natick, MA 01760), Regis High School (55 East 84th Street, NY, NY 10028) or the Natick Service Council (2 Webster Street, Natick, MA 01760).
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